by Kara Furr, Pacific Coast Weddings editor
OK, so maybe the title of this post is misleading. Maybe you think I have mastered the art of stress-free wedding planning. I haven't. I'm still feeling multiple moments of chest-tightening and mind-whirling on any given day, but I'm here to tell you that you're not alone, and to share how I'm getting through the last few weeks before my wedding.
I'm getting married in two weeks. In Wisconsin, no less; so I'm planning my wedding at quite a distance, and I have much left to do.
So far, I've found that there are three peak times of stress during the wedding process:
Immediately after setting a date. You're trying to figure out what you want, and everyone else expects you to already know, and/or to tell you how they expect it to be. Take a breath. It's OK to tell people to back off; just do it nicely.
Two months from your wedding. You've still got lots to do, but you're ready. You know how your wedding is going to look, and who's going to do what. This should be a time when you should be feeling confident and stress-free, but that wasn't the case for me. I felt like there was something I was supposed to be doing, and was completely freaked out about it. My advice? If you're doing a DIY project, work on that a little bit at a time, and you'll feel like you're getting something done.
Getting to set up a wedding registry with your partner is one of the highlights of wedding planning for any shoppers out there. But it can be hard to know what you really need. We've put together a list of basics for your registry. Customize it to your own needs!
Photo by Joe and Patience
The last few weeks before your wedding will be a whirlwind, and it’s easy to lose track of last minute planning details in the lead-up to your day. We’ve talked to brides and vendors and compiled a list of the most commonly forgotten items that you might encounter.
We recommend that you make a list or delegate these tasks to ensure they aren’t left behind in the wedding day rush.
Emily and Charlie held their elegant, traditional wedding, photographed by Matt Priestman Photography, on November 16, 2013 in Bellingham.
We love how they blended old traditions like the garter toss and the German bridal cup with a modern sensibility and a personal touch. See what Emily has to say about planning their wedding after the photos.
Photo by Matt Priestman Photography
Common wisdom says that the wedding day is the bride’s day, but even though the bride (and, OK, the groom, too) should be in the spotlight, it’s important that you remember to be considerate of the people you’ve invited to share your special day. The considerate bride will take some time to think of others and ensure that her family and friends are well cared for throughout the wedding day.
Here are some tips for making your wedding easy and enjoyable for your guests:
Accommodating the elderly
Give your elderly guests easy access to the ceremony and reception. If you can, designate extra parking spaces close to the venue entrance for those who have difficulty walking.
For the ceremony, make sure the sound system is working and is loud enough for those who are hard of hearing.
Assign someone to help them to and from their seats.
Are you planning to have loud music at your reception? If so, try to set aside space in a separate room or in a far corner where your older guests (or anyone who prefers quiet conversations to dancing all night) can have a chat. This would also be a great area to set up some games for the introverts in the crowd.
by Nicole Burdick, Simplified Spaces
If you’ve started planning your wedding already, you’ve probably discussed your wedding budget with your significant other. What may not be as urgent, but is of equal importance, is budgeting how you will spend your money together as a couple.
Money is never fun to talk about, which may be why couples avoid discussing it until it’s too late. Many studies cite money arguments as the top cause of divorce in the U.S., so get a head start on a healthy marriage by starting the discussion before you say “I do.”
While it’s certainly not traditional, a wedding website is very often a part of the 21st century bride’s toolkit, and if you use it to its full potential it could make your planning life much easier.
Style Me Pretty: Happily Ever After
Are you starting to get frustrated with planning your wedding? This lovely little board will help you remember what it's all really about.
And don't forget, we've got all sorts of resources to help you make the planning process easier:
Wedding Venue Finder
Wedding Vendor Directory
Offbeat Bride: General Wedding Amazingness: Full of quirky ideas, interesting information and heartfelt advice on weddings and marriage for the traditional and nontraditional bride alike, this board offers a truly unique perspective on the business of getting married.
Of course we're pretty partial to our own Pinterest boards as well! Find out what we think you'll love at Pinterest.com/paccoastwedding. Follow us today!
Are you a great cook, a food lover, or would you like to add an extra touch of tradition to your wedding? Ask your guests for recipes! This common addition to bridal showers and weddings allows guests to pass on their favorite family traditions, and may help you start some of your own!
Include a recipe card in your invitations or bring some along to your bridal shower. If they can't attend, ask them to mail in their recipe anyway. This is a great way of adding a truly personal touch to your invitations. You can even use them as a part of your guestbook!
Here's a handy printable for you. Each double-sided sheet contains four 3"x5" cards!