As soon as you begin planning your wedding, you will be inundated with well intentioned but somewhat clichéd advice from friends and family members. Truly helpful advice can be hard to come by, so we asked a few recently married locals for advice they wish they’d gotten while planning their weddings. This is what they had to say:
“Employ professionals! Don’t try to do it all yourself. I did that, and on my wedding day my parents didn’t get to enjoy it because they were taking care of everything. It’s been a year and anytime I think of my wedding day, I think of that. I have very few pictures of me with my parents, and it kills me.”
– Ashley N.
“I wish I had worried less about the actual party and tiny details, but I really wish we had gotten a professional photographer instead of having our friend take them. We have hardly any photos of my husband and me that aren’t just candid ones from friends.”
– Marina B.
“There are a lot of times in your life when it’s unacceptable to be selfish. Your wedding day is not one of those times. Despite the pressure you may feel to accommodate friends and family, this day is about you and the person you’re marrying. It’s supposed to be the best, most memorable moment of your life. Don’t forget that.”
– Steve G.
“Get your girls involved in planning. Make planning parties, craft and wine parties, etc. and enjoy it! Just be sure no one dominates your plans and don’t let the planning cloud the meaning of actually getting married.”
– Katherine E.
“Don’t obsess about the little things. I know it’s easier said than done, but a month after your wedding, you won’t care if your favors all looked perfect (actually, most guests will probably forget to take them) or if your florist couldn’t get that perfect flower. The things you’ll remember are the look on his face when you walk down the aisle, and laughing with your friends as you get ready, so take a step back and focus on what’s really important.”
– Kara Furr, Editor