Blazing your own path
Traditions can be found around every corner at a wedding, under hems, in piles of flower petals and even under placemats. Whether you always pictured a little something blue, stomping on the glass or a garter toss, traditions probably snuck their way into your wedding dreams early on. In this day and age, traditions can be meaningful, important, fun or an annoying hassle. A wedding is about the couple, so incorporate the traditions that you like and ditch the ones that don’t feel valuable to you. Here are some ideas on how to blaze your own nuptial path.
Seats not sides
Back in the day, ceremony seating was separated, one fiancé’s family on the left and the other’s family and friends on the right. Today, many brides and grooms find that things aren’t so black and white, and they don’t have to be. You are joining your two families together, so why not let everybody sit together? Cute signs with quaint rhymes encouraging guests to sit where they want are popular features at many weddings these days.
It used to be traditional for the parents of the bride to foot the bill, but that is not always the case anymore. If either side’s parents are willing to help with costs, that’s great, but don’t expect anyone to foot the whole bill. Some parents are willing to pick up one aspect of the day as a wedding present, like the catering or the dress, so talk to your parents about whether they want to help out where they can but be respectful of their finances and generosity.
More and more these days, we are seeing colorful wedding dresses, black wedding dresses and even patterned wedding dresses. When the big day comes, you want to feel like you are at your most beautiful, and if you get that special, confidant, butterfly feeling in stripes, blue, paisley or white, it doesn’t matter. Grandma might question your choice at first, but tell anyone who asks the truth: this is your day and you feel fabulous in the threads you’re in.
Say yes to the … dress?
We are in an age of self-expression, and if you feel like a queen in a cupcake dress, that’s fantastic, but there are other options if a dress doesn’t feel like you. Tailored suits and tuxedos are great options regardless of gender; however, a nice middle ground between a dress and a tux is a jumpsuit. We are seeing more and more jumpsuits in weddings and on bridal runways. Wear what makes you comfortable. It’s your day, and if you want to rock a dress, tux, jumpsuit or romper, that’s completely up to you.
Public first looks and vows
Traditionally, the first look was when the bride walked down the aisle, but these days, a lot of couples would rather have a private first look with just the couple and the photographer. Some couples take this a step further, exchanging personal vows privately during the first look and opting for traditional vows at the actual ceremony. A wedding is deeply personal and there is nothing wrong with saving some of the most emotional moments for just the two of you.